In the last post I told you that all conflict, internal and external begins with a disconnect from the Truth. Now let’s take a look at how you may experience this disconnection and how you can begin to get yourself reconnected to the Truth.
To start, I want to make something very clear to you. It is possible to achieve a lot of material success in this life while still being disconnected from the Truth. However, there is a cost to being disconnected from the Truth, regardless of how much material success is gained.
You’ve probably heard the expression: making a deal with the devil. Think of this devil not as a red figure with a pitchfork for a moment and, instead, consider this expression as a metaphor for something that is happening all the time in the lives of all people.
The moment we tell a lie to ourselves or others, we are disconnecting from the Truth. The reason we may tell a lie in the first place is for the instant reward of not having to deal with the consequences associated with telling the Truth. Instead of telling the Truth, we make a deal with the devil. We tell a lie, and in exchange we don’t have to tell the Truth.
If you cheat on your spouse and then hide it from them. You are making a deal with the devil. Lying to your spouse allows you to keep your spouse from knowing what you did so that you can continue your life as if you did not cheat on them. In this way, you seem to be able to have your cake and eat it too. You get to cheat on your spouse and, at the same time, keep your spouse thinking you have not cheated on them. It seems like a good deal, right?
However, the devil always takes something in return – your soul. Because you have lied, you have disconnected from the Truth and you are certain to experience the impact of this choice over time. Even if your spouse never finds out what you did, you cannot escape the consequences that will invariably play out for you, mentally and emotionally. You will always have the fear of being found out or losing your spouse in the back of your mind. One lie becomes another and before you know it, you are living a life of lies. The guilt and fear builds up subconsciously, regardless of whether you think about what you have done often or infrequently. These buried feelings will then manifest in your life in a variety of ways, depending on what you have lied about and to whom.
The so-called devil may give you what you desire in this very moment but there is always a cost. What is generally not fully grasped about this idea is the great many ways a person may lie to themselves. People are lying to themselves all the time. It is not just the lies we tell others, it is the lies we tell ourselves, without even knowing that we are lying. You may have hundreds of lies that you tell yourself about yourself, others and life, that you don’t even consider to be lies at all. Because of this, bringing yourself back into a full connection with the Truth is a process that can take a lifetime of dedication. People don’t want to hear this because they want instant gratification. If something isn’t easy, most people don’t want to do it.
I suggest you consider the previous example of cheating on a spouse and see if you can understand its underlying principles. You may think to yourself, “This example doesn’t apply to me because I haven’t cheated on my spouse.” This is intellectual and emotional laziness. Instead, see if you can abstract the highest level of understanding from this example. Really think about it. Understand the principle that is being illuminated and consciously think through how it may apply to you in your life.
You definitely have this dynamic playing out in your life in some way. If you don’t make a connection between the example and your own life, you will not get any benefit from this post. You must look to see where you may be lying to yourself. You must be willing to consider that you are believing falsehoods and half-truths, especially since the thoughts you are used to thinking and the stories you are used to telling, usually don’t occur for you as lies at all. Remember, a good liar must first lie to themselves. They must make themselves believe that the lie is true, in order to keep telling the lie convincingly. It is time to investigate yourself and see where you are experiencing the effects of an old lie. Then, you can trace your conflicts back to their actual root, a disconnect from the Truth.
Perhaps you believe that you are inherently bad with money or that you will always be unhealthy. Maybe you are blaming someone else for your relationships not being harmonious. Maybe you believe that you are bad or undeserving of love or that you are unwanted. Perhaps you believe that life will always be hard or that the world is a terrible place. I could continue to make a list of all the possible lies you could be telling yourself all day long. The list would be staggering, but don’t make me do your work for you. Don’t wait for me to bring up what you are lying to yourself about.
Instead, simply consider that you must be lying to yourself in some way, and begin a mission to determine what these lies and falsehoods are, so you can become a more authentic person. Your access point to being the best version of yourself is your willingness to align yourself with what is True, so don’t wait until life shows you your lies and inauthenticities. Your inauthenticities do not want to be uncovered so you must be the one to deliberately initiate the search for them, despite the fact that they want to stay hidden.
See if you can start to learn your lessons in a whisper. You don’t have to wait until your partner leaves you, or you get fired from your job, or until you are dying of a terminal illness. You don’t have to wait until it gets worse before you start to look at yourself honestly. You can reconnect with your True Self by your own free will choice. Remember, the Truth will set you free but only if you are willing to confront and admit the Truth to yourself.
If you are not willing to do this, do not think you can escape the consequences. Eventually, the Truth will reveal itself. It is simply a matter of how long you want it to take, and how hard you want it to be. If you are having a hard time telling the Truth, you may want to consider what you are missing out on. You may want to consider what you don’t get to experience when you are living the lie.
You may not be able to even comprehend how much better your life could be if you were no longer living a lie. This is because we don’t just hide the truth from ourselves. We also hide the impact the lies have on our lives. We pretend the lies are not costing us anything. We pretend that the “devil” has not claimed our soul.
The cheating partner will never experience the beauty of a true connection in a relationship. He settles for so much less and doesn’t even realize what he has done to himself. He numbs his true joy. He pretends it doesn’t matter. He believes that he is trapped and that there is nothing he can do, and all of this is just another lie.
In the Bible Jesus said: “If you hold to my teaching, then you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.”
This blog is not meant to be a promotion of any religious views but these words are very interesting nonetheless, and very applicable to the topic at hand. If you hold to the teachings in this blog, you will know Truer Truths, and in admitting these Truths, you will be free.